Monthly Archives: March 2010

Dead AIM?

My work friends seem convinced that no one uses AIM anymore. Everyone else I know is not so sure—I know a lot of other people who do use AIM pretty regularly.

So I don’t know if most of the world has moved on to Gchat or if my publishing colleagues are just ahead of the curve (those in the know, insert joke about publishing and media here). Personally, although instant messaging figured heavily into my college thesis, I don’t like talking online via any means. To me, it’s one of the most awkward possible means of having a conversation. I’m terrible at reading tone of voice online, I can never tell if the person I’m talking to really wants to be talking to me, I never know when to end the conversation (especially if I want to remain online but just not talk to the person anymore), and if someone disappears for awhile, I don’t know if she went to pick up her laundry or if something I said offended her.

However, I do remember college, where life revolved around AIM. Before the Facebook status or Twitter, there was the AIM away message. We were constantly on AIM, updating our profiles to reflect the new dorm room we were in, the colors of our mood, and whatever clever quote we’d happen to come across. And it was imperative that the away message inform our friends, classmates, and potential stalkers where we were at all times. Studying! In the shower! Out with my friends (see, world, I have friends)! “Why isn’t the guy I like answering my messages? He’s away but not idle!” “Ooh, look, the girl in my freshman philosophy class whose away messages I check even though I never talk to her just got arrested with her roommates after her party got busted!” (True story.)

One thing that’s been lost in the translation from away messages to Facebook statuses and Twitter, though, is the art of the song lyric message. Most song lyrics are too long to sum up our deepest feelings in 140 characters, but that wasn’t a problem with the AIM away message! No, we didn’t have to come right out and say what we were feeling because an artist we liked had done it for us, leaving us with cryptic lyrics to provide our friends, hoping that they’d decipher our mood. And there were truly lyrics for every emotion. Here’s a sampling of how melodramatic and self-important Katie’s buddy list thought she was in college (and yes, I know my taste in music is all over the place and often questionable and no, I am not ashamed):

The Life-Is-Good-Let’s-Enjoy-This-Moment Message
This is the time to remember
‘Cause it will not last forever
These are the days to hold onto
‘Cause we won’t although we’ll want to
This is the time
But time is gonna change…
-Billy Joel, “This Is the Time”

Turns out not where but who you’re with that really matters
-Dave Matthews Band, “Best of What’s Around”

The I-Have-An-Unrequited-Crush Message
I don’t believe that anybody feels the way I do about you now…
-Oasis, “Wonderwall”

Look at me
My depth perception must be off again
‘Cause this hurts deeper than I thought it did
It has not healed with time…
-Saliva, “Rest in Pieces”

The I’m-Having-A-Crisis Message
Back in the days when everything seemed so much clearer
Women in white who knew what their lives held in store
Where are they now, those women who stared from the mirror?
We can never go back to before
-“Back to Before” from Ragtime (a song I love from a musical I’ve never actually seen)

I just don’t understand how
You can smile with all those tears in your eyes
And tell me everything is wonderful now…
-Everclear, “Wonderful”

The I-Will-Survive-Whatever-That-Crisis-Is Message
It’s times like these we learn to live again
It’s times like these we give and give again
It’s times like these we learn to love again
It’s times like these time and time again
-Foo Fighters, “Times Like These”

It’s all right, I’m okay
I think God can explain
I believe I’m the same
I get carried away
It’s all right, I’m okay
I think God can explain
I’m relieved, I’m relaxed
I’ll get over it, yeah
I’m so much better than you guessed
I’m so much bigger than you guessed
I’m so much brighter than you guessed
-Splender, “I Think God Can Explain”

The I’m-A-Supportive-Friend Message
If I am only here to watch you as you suffer
I will let you down
-Nine Days, “If I Am”

When you come back down
If you land on your feet
I hope you find a way to make it back to me
When you come around
I’ll be there for you
Don’t have to be alone with what you’re going through
-Lifehouse, “Come Back Down”

The I-Like-Myself-Even-If-You-Don’t-You-Bitch Message
Sometimes I’m clueless and I’m clumsy
But I’ve got friends that love me
They know just where I stand
It’s all a part of me
That’s who I am
-Jessica Andrews, “Who I Am”

I don’t want to be anything other than what I’ve been trying to be lately
All I have to do is think of me and I have peace of mind
I’m tired of looking ‘round rooms wondering what I gotta do and who I’m supposed to be
I don’t want to be anything other than me.
-Gavin DeGraw, “I Don’t Want to Be”

The OMG-Onset-Of-Quarter-Life-Crisis Message
What do you do with a B.A. in English?
What is my life going to be?
Four years of college and plenty of knowledge
Have earned me this useless degree
I can’t pay the bills yet ‘cause I have no skills yet
The world is a big, scary place
But somehow I can’t shake
The feeling I might make
A difference to the human race
-“What Do You Do With a B.A. in English?” from Avenue Q

I wake up scared
I wake up strange
I wake up wondering if anything in my life is ever gonna change
I wake up scared
I wake up strange
And everything around me stays the same
-Barenaked Ladies, “What a Good Boy”

The I’m-Pissed-At-Someone-I’m-Not-Going-To-Name Message
You were almost kind, you were almost true
Don’t let them see that other side of you
-Guster, “Either Way”

Look here she comes now
Bow down and stare in wonder
Oh how we love you
No flaws when you’re pretending
But now I know she
Never was and never will be
You don’t know how you’ve betrayed me
And somehow you’ve got everybody fooled
-Evanescence, “Everybody’s Fool”

The I-Just-Watched-Garden-State Message

They won’t see us waving from such great heights
“Come down now,” they’ll say
But everything looks perfect from far away
-Iron and Wine, “Such Great Heights”

It’s all right
‘Cause there’s beauty in the breakdown
-Frou Frou, “Let Go” (actually, I didn’t use these away messages much myself, but there was a time where it seemed like half my buddy list did)

The Has-No-Relevance-To-My-Life-I-Just-Like-The-Sound-Of-It Message
And football teams are kissing queens and losing sight of having dreams
In a world where what we want is only what we want until it’s ours…
-Train, “Calling All Angels”

Scars are souvenirs you never lose
The past is never far
Did you lose yourself somewhere out there?
Did you get to be a star?And don’t it make you sad to know that life is more than who we are?
-Goo Goo Dolls, “Name”

The Time-For-Bed-Message (yes, I had a few of those)
When you dream, what do you dream about? Do you dream about music or mathematics
Or planets too far for the eye?Do you dream about Jesus or quantum mechanics
Or angels who sing lullabyes?
-Barenaked Ladies, “When You Dream”

Someday we’ll all be gone
But lullabyes go on and on
They never die.
That’s how (buddy name) and I will be
-Billy Joel, “Lullabye (Goodnight My Angel)” (remember that thing that would insert the buddy’s screenname into the away message?)

Plus lots of other songs that only worked on certain occasions. U2’s “Beautiful Day” for the first nice spring day we had. When I participated in a dance marathon, I was thrilled that it gave me a chance to use Melissa Etheridge’s “Dance Without Sleeping.” And around graduation time…do I even need to name all the sappy songs we had to choose from?

Writing this post has made me realize that I listen to music differently now than I did when I was in college. I think having the option of the away message gave me a more self-centered view of what I listened to. Now, when I hear a song I like, I often think of a story that the lyrics could be applied to, but it’s not usually a scenario that involves me. And being a few years removed from college has made me see how inconsequential most of the dramas I paid tribute to in my away messages really were.

I don’t usually beg for comments, but in this case, I know I’m not the only one who fondly remembers the days where AIM was the center of our worlds and the away message was the source of all your knowledge about your friends, roommates, and former classmates you haven’t seen since freshman year. What did you put up for your away messages?

Katie Recommends: Oscar Edition

This year, I decided that I’d see all the Best Picture nominees before the Oscars. Unfortunately, I forgot that this year they’d upped the Best Picture nominees to ten. Nevertheless, I did see all ten of them before the Oscars, and here are my thoughts on the Best Picture nominees.

Up
I knew it wasn’t going to win, but this was actually my favorite nominee. It’s wonderful— funny, suspenseful, touching, and, at the beginning, incredibly sad. (The marriage montage? Tell me you weren’t crying during that.)

An Education
If I did a regular “Katie Recommends,” this would get top billing—it’s a gem of a movie that not enough people have seen. Carey Mulligan is fantastic as Jenny, a smart sixteen-year-old girl in the London suburbs in the early 1960s. Jenny’s well-meaning but overbearing parents are pressuring her to get into Oxford to study English. Then she meets David (Peter Saarsgard), a charming older man who gives her a ride home one day. Soon, he’s swept her off her feet, taking her to jazz clubs, the opera, even Paris—and charming her parents into letting her go. It’s so much more exciting than what she’s used to that she starts wondering what the point of all she’s been working toward is—why go to Oxford and then pursue the limited career opportunities she’ll have as a woman when she could have all the excitement David is able to offer her? The screenplay is by Nick Hornby, which is in itself a reason to see it, and combined with Mulligan’s acting, you start to find Jenny’s logic convincing, even as you begin to see that there’s something sketchy about David (not going to spoil the ending). It’s also unexpectedly funny—Alfred Molina as Jenny’s father, in particular, adds a lot to the movie.

Precious
I definitely recommend this movie, but you need to be in the right mood to see it. Precious is an obese, illiterate teenager whose mother physically and emotionally abuses her and whose father rapes her, resulting in two pregnancies. Mo’Nique is fantastically scary as the mother, and some parts of it are very intense. But weirdly, it’s as uplifting as it is depressing. Gabourey Sidibe, who plays Precious, is almost as good as Mo’Nique—I can’t believe she’d never acted before this. You’ve probably heard about Mariah Carey and her mustache, too (she’s not bad, but it’s not a terribly demanding part), but I’m really surprised Paula Patton hasn’t gotten more attention for her role as the teacher who helps Precious get her life on track. I wouldn’t say she was the character I remembered most, but she was up there.

Up In the Air
It seems like a lot of people are kind of meh on this movie, but I really liked it. For one thing, it’s very timely—George Clooney plays Ryan Bingham, a guy who works for a company that fires people from other companies, and considering they probably started planning for the movie before the unemployment rate started plummeting, the filmmakers are probably jumping for joy about the recession. Ryan is based out of Omaha, but really lives in the sky, flying all over the country without any connections to any one place or any one person. In a job where he’s paid to disrupt people’s lives, there’s no sense of accomplishment, so he finds a reward in collecting frequent flyer miles and membership reward points. But then his company brings in Natalie (Anna Kendrick), a twenty-something Ivy League grad, who has the idea to do the firing via videoconferencing. Ryan does not take this well—but first he has to travel with Natalie, showing her how the firing is done. It’s directed by Jason Reitman, whose last movie was Juno, a kind of unconventional romantic comedy. If you see this movie, you need to know that despite what you see on the commercials, it’s not remotely a romantic comedy. Also, while I love George Clooney, I don’t think he should have gotten an Oscar nomination—he’s playing the same role he always plays. Vera Farmiga, who plays a business traveler whom Ryan gets romantically involved with, shouldn’t have been nominated either. But Anna Kendrick is fabulous. Until I saw Precious, I was rooting for her to win Best Supporting Actress. Now I think Mo’Nique totally deserved the Oscar, but I hope this is just the beginning of a long, illustrious career for Kendrick.

The Hurt Locker
I probably wouldn’t have seen The Hurt Locker had it not been nominated for (and later won) Best Picture—war movies are just not my thing. That said, The Hurt Locker is extremely well-done for what it is. It’s one of those movies that’s easy to sum up in one sentence—it’s about soldiers dismantling bombs in Iraq. Jeremy Renner is great as one particularly reckless soldier, and the direction is fabulous. The script was written by a journalist who spent time with a unit like this in Iraq, and the result is a surprisingly apolitical movie, considering that it’s set in Iraq in 2004.

Avatar
You’ve already heard my thoughts on another James Cameron movie. While my thoughts on this one are not quite as enthusiastic, I will say that Avatar is definitely worth seeing, and if you do see it, you should see it in the theater in 3-D. Visually, it’s absolutely beautiful. The writing, however, is awful. It’s incredibly simplistic with one-dimensional characters and a plot that’s stolen from the 90s kids’ movie FernGully. I’ve heard people read a lot into it—it’s a metaphor for Iraq, it’s anti-American, blah blah blah fishcakes—but honestly, I don’t think James Cameron was thinking about it that hard. And one random little thing that kept bugging me—the protagonist, played by Sam Worthington, is a paraplegic. The movie takes place in 2149—they’re invading other planets, but they haven’t found a cure for paralysis by then? Really? On the plus side, Sam Worthington is quite attractive.

District 9
I actually didn’t like this movie at all. It takes place in South Africa after a race of aliens have ended up stranded on Earth, and the government has to round up and relocate the aliens, who are derogatorily referred to as “prawns.” I think the biggest problem with it is that it’s told in a mockumentary style, which would work for a comedy, but in this case keeps you from getting drawn into the story. It’s too bad, too, because it had the potential to be an interesting commentary on racism and xenophobia, but for that to happen we would have to care about the rest of the movie.

A Serious Man
I’m not usually a fan of the Coen Brothers—I liked Fargo, but absolutely hated No Country for Old Men—but this movie wasn’t bad. Starring absolutely no one you’ve ever heard of, it’s about a Jewish professor in 1967 Minnesota whose life is falling apart to the point of absurdity. His wife has left him for another man, forcing him to sleep in a motel along with his freeloading brother. His kids are stealing from him, the father of a student is trying to bribe him into passing his son, he’s up for tenure and someone is writing letters to the committee telling them he shouldn’t be granted it, and he’s in the middle of a property dispute with his neighbor. A friend suggests that he consult with three rabbis, which he does, but he never finds the answers that would help him make sense of all the chaos. None of this is as depressing as it sounds, by the way—it’s more of a black comedy than anything else. I didn’t love it, I didn’t hate it…it’s somewhere in the middle of movies that came out last year.

Inglorious Bastards
A lot of people like this movie, but I just could not get into it. Don’t quite know why. Christoph Waltz is great as a Nazi, though.

The Blind Side
I liked this movie, but it won’t appeal to everyone. You’ve seen the commercials, and it’s exactly what it looks like—a sappy, feel-good sports movie based on a true story. Personally, I have a weakness for that kind of movie, so I enjoyed it. I don’t think Sandra Bullock was any better than the other Best Actress nominees, although her winning was worth it just for her great speech. However, I completely understood why she was nominated after seeing an interview with Leigh Anne Tuohy, the woman she portrays in the film. Leigh Anne seems like someone out of one of those Real Housewives shows— a bleached blonde, type A interior decorator from Memphis whose husband owns a bunch of Taco Bells and whose expression tells you that you won’t win any argument you start with her, and Bullock completely nails this woman’s personality, mannerisms, accent, and manner of speaking. My one issue with is it is that it doesn’t give Michael Oher enough credit for his own success—yes, he had a lot of help from his adoptive family, but many kids in similar circumstances wouldn’t have thrived the way he did. But if you like movies like Rudy or Remember the Titans, you’ll like this one, too.